Congratulations! You have found the one and now you are engaged to your dream man! Yay! “Now what?” you may ask. The normal response I get from my clients is that they are feeling super stressed and overwhelmed because they have no idea where to start when it comes to planning. This is how we have been conditioned to think about weddings because there is so much pressure to have the perfect day. I hear this all the time that brides have an idea of what they want but then they say “I don’t want to be a burden to anyone so I think we will just do this instead.” As I hear them say this I can pick up on their energy and how they feel they have to settle for something that is not their vision because they feel like there is no other option. This is where I come in and help brides reframe how they think about weddings so they can have the wedding of THEIR dreams and not the dreams of everyone else they are trying to please. I teach them how they can plan their wedding without settling just like I did!

The first step is to listen to your thoughts and how you are speaking to others about your day. Jot these thoughts down in your journal if you want because this will help you realize the pressure you are putting on yourself. Once you witness and recognize a pattern here you can reframe how you are thinking by creating new thoughts and beliefs. For example, if you keep thinking how stressed and overwhelmed you are you will continue to bring more of those types of thoughts and feelings into your mind. So start telling a new story by reframing it by saying to yourself…”wedding planning is so fun and everything is falling into place”. This will help you feel more calm and more at ease. When you find yourself telling the old story witness it and reframe it by telling the new story again.

Sit down with your fiancé and get an idea of what you both want for your special day and see what areas of your wedding are the top priorities for you. For example, some couples definitely want a DJ rather than a band or stations instead of a formal sit down dinner. Ultimately the choice is yours so get clear on what you want and take action based on that. When you start talking to family and friends they will most likely tell you what they think you should do but remember it is your day not theirs so do not let others dictate what is right for you. Only you and your fiancé know what is best.

I hope this starts to help you become more aware of your thoughts about your wedding and allows you to reframe them so you can start telling a new story where you will feel more at ease and aligned with your wedding choices. This is such an exciting time in your life so do not feel like you have to dim your excitement and your light to please others. And like Rihanna says “shine bright like a diamond”!

If this resonated with you please send me an email at and let me know. I would love to hear from you!

Happy wedding planning!

Cheers & love,


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